Debate:Reasons why not many people have come forward to report that they enjoyed their childhood experiences of adult-child sex
There are several proposed explanations for why not many people have come forward to report that they enjoyed adult-child sex when they were children. Note that "sex" encompasses not only vaginally or anally penetrative sex but other forms of sexual contact such as oral sex.
There have been some reports, by people who claim to have engaged in adult-child sex when they were children, that they were indifferent to or liked those experiences. The people who tell such stories are usually pedophiles. Therefore, their claims tend to be regarded as suspect, because they are perceived to have a conflict of interest. It could also be that people who enjoy childhood experiences of adult-child sex are more likely to become pedophiles because they realize that it can be a pleasant experience for the child.
Children do not enjoy sex with adults
One explanation is that children do not enjoy such sex; they find it frightening and unpleasant. They are not fully developed enough to be capable of enjoying sex. An argument against this is that research shows children can, in fact, experience pleasurable genital sensations and even reach orgasm in some cases. This pleasure is a large part of why children have a tendency to masturbate from infancy onward and to engage in sex play. It is also why some children use sexual stimulation as a stress-reliever, much as people use any other pleasure for that purpose.
The following exchange occurred in the course of the Vlad Draconis PenDragon interview:
- Larson: If sex between adults and children is so potentially enjoyable to both parties, why do you think it is that there have not been many younger partners of adult-child sexual relationships coming out of the woodwork years later to express publicly the joyful nature of these experiences?
- PenDragon: Stigma. Persecution. And because we live in a culture which teaches us to be ashamed of anything we enjoy that is not commonly accepted.
Lack of need for catharsis
People are more likely to feel a need to unburden themselves of stories of their sexual experiences if those experiences were traumatic. Therefore, most of the stories of adult-child sex that people hear will tend to be of traumatic experiences. This creates a false impression that all, or almost all, adult-child sexual experiences are traumatic.
The human brain, especially the human memory, is a lot more sensitive and subjective instrument that we can imagine. People may actually forget these encounters or take them as dreams, nightmares etc. Psychology has been keen in "uncovering" these events, whether they existed or not, through the moral view of adult accepted behavior. This works in terms of objectivity and exactness as well as you can imagine.